style of sam in neckmess of marla aaron necklaces, van cleef and arpels alhambra necklace, hermes bangle


How to Layer Jewelry & All About the Neckmess



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style of sam in neckmess of marla aaron necklaces, van cleef and arpels alhambra necklace, hermes banglestyle of sam in christy lynn luna jumpsuit vintage chanel maxi bagstyle of sam showing how to layer jewelryAccessories are my secret weapon for style. You can completely change a look with your accessories and jewelry. Trends are always changing but one that I LOVE is layering pieces. Today, I’m chatting all about how to layer your jewelry whether it’s rings on every finger, an arm party, or a “neckmess”!

AND I’ve been stopped multiple times and asked about it so I thought it would be fun to share what I wear!


You found a gorgeous piece of jewelry that makes you go WOW, but the price makes you go OW!! Look into pre-owned option like on The Real Real. That’s where I purchased my Spinelli Kilcollin ring!

First, let me start by saying that you can accomplish this look with any kind of jewelry. Currently, I’m wearing all “real jewelry” which I have acquired over some time. However, the same look can be done with costume jewelry. One of my favorite places for costume jewelry was Forever 21 before I owned real pieces, and I’ll share a “look for less” in each section.


style of sam showing how to layer jewelrystyle of sam wearing neckmess marla aaron star and heart lock necklaces, van cleef and arpels alhambra necklace, vintage mary medallionstyle of sam wearing neckmess of pearl choker, marla aaron heart lock necklaces, vintage mary medallionstyle of sam wearing neckmess of chanel turnlock necklace, by chari chain choker, vintage mary medallion

The term “neckmess” is trending and who doesn’t love to wear mess of necklaces. I’m a fan of more is more and why not wear everything?!  LOL! Okay, in all seriousness, there is a little method to the madness. I’ll break down some basics and show you examples on myself.

  • Show off your gorgeous pieces by layering different lengths – from choker to pendant. I usually have on at least 3 necklaces everyday. Two of them are never taken off.
  • Matching NOT required! It’s okay if you mix metals (like gold and silver) or mix materials (like pearls).
  • What about neckline? What ABOUT necklines! There are no rules. It’s usually shown off best with a v-neckline but I’ve worn my necklace layers with a t-shirt, square neck, and everything else. It’s just that certain necklaces will show and others may not.

Many of my necklaces have sentimental value and significant meaning to me. My MIL gave me her Mary medallion and it never comes off. I met Marla Aaron at Ylang 23 and fell IN LOVE with all of her pieces. My first was the square link chain with the silver and gold heart lock which is engraved with my family’s names. My husband knew that I was saving for more pieces, so he and Little M got the star lock for a Mother’s Day present. It literally makes me tear up when I see the picture of him giving it to me (see below). The Van Cleef & Arpels Alhambra necklace was a gift when Baby M was born and will be a family heirloom passed down to her when she gets older.

style of sam getting marla aaron star lock for mother's day

top to bottom: BY CHARI, MARLA AARONS (chain + silver lock), VAN CLEEF & ARPELS, MARLA AARON (loop chain, star lock, heart lock), VINTAGE MARY MEDALLION, LASHES IN A BOX No 24


style of sam in au rate open bar pearl ring, spinelli kilcollin sonny ring, vintage onyx ringstyle of sam in kate spade lips ringMy cousin wore a ring on almost every single finger, and I thought she was THE COOLEST girl in the world. I definitely copied her back in the 90s, and I LOVE wearing rings! Even if my nails aren’t done (which they basically NEVER are), my fingers look pretty and decorated with some bling! And NOW, it’s also trending!! Here we go with some quick tips:

  • Wear a similar thickness across the fingers! You can wear dainty with dainy and chunky with chunky for maximal impact!
  • Rules are meant to be broken! You can also mix and match!

My rings also have significant meaning to me! The AU RATE pearl & diamond ring is a recent purchase, and it symbolizes my two children with the pearl and the diamond bar. They both have such a different adoption story but very beautiful together. I’ve been obsessed with the brand for years after discovering them at TenOverSix in Dallas and purchasing rings for my best friends. (I found them on a special, but there wasn’t enough to buy one for myself!) AU RATE is like the Everlane of jewelry – responsibly sourced and made in NY. For every purchase, there is a book given to a child in need.

I purchased the Spinelli Kilcollin ring because it’s a mix of metals and materials (yellow gold, rose gold, and diamonds) – all precious and different like my blended family sometimes separate but always connected by bond. The LAGOS North Star ring is a reminder to choose the right thing. (You can read more in this post.) And the last ring was given to me by my late father so I treasure it.



style of sam wearing lagos bracelets and ringsstyle of sam with vintage chanel caviar small flap and julie vos bracelet stackstyle of sam in reformation puff sleeve top and lola + lina circle horn earrings marla aarons neckmessI LIVED for the arm party pre-kids but now it’s a bit toned down. Wearing tons of bracelets usually hurt ME and my baby when I was carrying them so I stopped wearing bracelets unless I was out for date night. And then I found the All Weather Bangles from Budha Girl and those are A.MAZ.ING!!! They are so light-weight, pain-free, waterproof, and life proof! Wish I would have known about these years ago! Anyhow, I digress!

  • There are literally NO rules!! Wear multiples for maximal effect! You can even tie a scarf around your wrist for a super fun beautiful look!

Basically, my daily arm party consists of All Weather Bangles on my right arm, and a LOVE bracelet and watch on my left arm. When it’s a date night or special occasion, then I wear my faves like Julie Vos, Chanel, or Hermes on the right arm.

Do you wear a neckmess, arm party, or rings and things? What’s your favorite? (They are ALL my favorite! LOL! I’m a more is MORE girl!)


jumpsuit CHRISTY LYNN COLLECTION c/o | earrings J.ING
necklaces BY CHARI, MARLA AARONS (chain + silver lock), VAN CLEEF & ARPELS, MARLA AARON (loop chain, star lock, heart lock), VINTAGE MARY MEDALLION

P.S. Just wanted to share a little about a new sustainable luxury brand that I discovered, Christy Lynn. The jumpsuit that I’m wearing is from her brand. Christy is based in Houston and has experience with brands like Nanette Lepore, Catherine Malandrino, and Elie Tahari.

Happy Wednesday Y’all! We are in beautiful California for our family vacation! I can’t wait to surprise the Littles with our Day at Disneyland, and I’m so happy about the cooler weather! Yesterday, they had their first time at the beach!!

By the way, the RISE Conference by Rachel Hollis was LIFE CHANGING and LIFE GIVING!! I’ve never been to a personal development conference before, and I am SO GRATEFUL to have taken this chance. I literally feel like a whole new me and will be doing a recap to share what I’ve learned!

♥︎ ♥︎ STAY GLAM, DO GOOD ♥︎ ♥︎

Thank you so much for stopping by and supporting SOS!



Rxoxo, Sam

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  1. Mica says:

    Thank you so much for sharing your tips Sam! You always accessorise so well, and I love the necklace layering – neckmess is such a fun way to describe it, but it’s definitely not messy! I toned down the arm parties with kids too – they were too easy to grab and get damaged or caught or have painful bits poking. I have 4 pieces I wear on my wrist permanently that never come off and I’m trying to brand out with statement earrings now my boys are a bit less grabby, haha!

    Enjoy Disney! Our kids loved it when we went a few months ago, I know your kids will too! :)

    Hope that your week is going well :) I have a night out with friends tonight I’m looking forward to! :)
    Mica recently posted…Grey Knits And Green Skinny Jeans With Rebecca Minkoff Love BagsMy Profile

    • Sam says:

      Hooray for Girls Night Out! You deserve it Mica and you’re doing such a great job!! Hope you have so much fun! ????

  2. Madison says:

    Really love how you piece together multiple items to make it into one look! Especially love how you have all of your rings. So Cute!

    • Sam says:

      Thank you Madison!! I’ve always been a more is more girl! Now that it’s kind of trendy, it’s working for me! :)

  3. Rose says:

    I am in love with all of your jewelry pieces!

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  5. HongChing says:

    SAm, you have such an amazing smile! who cares about the necklace mess when your smile brings it all together. Thanks for the tips on layering the JEWELRY, this helps amp up my outfits just a little bit more. <3

  6. Jaclyn says:

    You look beautiful! I love all of the jewelry you are wearing. aurate looks like they have some beautiful stuff!

  7. Looking great!!!

    Thanks for share this information. Waiting for next blog.
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